Finding rehabilitation for your teenager

  1. I needed her in a place she had to stay. Outpatient treatment wasn’t working, and I couldn’t live with her at home.
  2. I didn’t want it to be co-ed. That, frankly, was half our problem.
  3. I believed that it needed to be faith-based. If I’m really being honest with you, I don’t know why, but at that moment, I felt it needed to be rooted in more than just getting physically and mentally healthier.

Truth versus reality.

  • Website testimonials
  • Google Reviews
  • Better Business Bureau Filings

Faith-based versus secular.

Know your rights.

Do not walk blindly into a program.

  1. Visit the facility. I learned that I was (likely) only one of two people who had ever visited the facility with their child before putting them there. You don’t need to bring your child, especially if they’re in such a place that even knowing they could be sent away would do more harm than good. However, you do need to find a way to visit the staff and facility yourself if possible.
  2. Talk to current or former families. This is much harder due to privacy laws, but the facility may have families on standby for these conversations. We were one of those families. If anyone, at any time, ever wanted to contact us, they had full right to.
  3. Before you apply, learn about the process. The program our daughter was entered into was an indefinite stay program. It worked based on levels. She would be there as long, or relatively little, as it took her to get her act together and recover. Some programs are only two or six-weeks in duration. Know what you’re signing up for and what relative outcome to expect.

This is your child.

Hear the hard answers.

Proximity to where you live.

Be prepared for the cost.

  1. Health Insurance — some health insurance policies will cover long term treatment care, even if not its fullest percentage.
  2. Cash-out your 401K, IRA, or any other asset you can find — some asset programs, like 401K, will allow you to withdraw on hardship. We took advantage of this to cover two of the months within our program. It allowed us to take out cash on a no-interest loan basis and use my income to pay it back over time.
  3. Investigate a second mortgage — based on the equity in your home; you may qualify.
  4. Sell a car — if you can live on one car and have two, consider selling one of your cars for extra cash to support.
  5. Take a personal loan — while you may not qualify for a second mortgage, you may qualify for a personal loan to cover costs. We took advantage of this to cover two of the months for our program as well.
  6. Ask about scholarships. The program may have scholarship resources, as might your employer or even your place of faith. It is embarrassing and hard to ask for money; I get it. But if you don’t ask, you don’t know what is out there.

Getting there.

Now, the program starts.



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Melissa A Green

Melissa A Green


I am a human-mom, husky-mom, wife and wannabe Top Chef who went through fire and came out on the other side faithful, self-aware, renewed and sane (mostly).